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10 Red Flags In Dating Relationships
by: Terri Arnold (Spicy Grandma)
When starting a new
relationship, many women (and men as well) tend to overlook some
behaviors in their new partner that do not bode well for the future.
Then, down the road, comes the exclamation ‘If I had only known...’.
As a Psychotherapist who has worked with mostly women and a few men
in the field of Domestic Violence, during counseling sessions we can
always trace back unpleasant and also dangerous character traits to
the very start of the relationship.
Here are some ‘Red
Flags’ to watch out for in a new partner.
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He makes decisions
about where to go with little or no input from you.
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He belittles your
opinion when the two of you are alone and may call you names.
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He makes disparaging
remarks about you in front of others and may talk about you as if
you were not there.
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He may be rough
during love-making and make you engage in acts you do not like.
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He does not want to
spend time with your friends or family and insists you socialize
with his people.
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He will not
acknowledge your areas of expertise and may put down what you do
in the workplace - ignore any of your accomplishments.
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He may openly flirt
with other women and then accuse you of being jealous when you
object.
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He gets angry and
loses his temper over trivialities. Stays angry for a long time
and attempts to blame all arguments on you.
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May hit walls when
angry.
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One of the main
factors is that he comes on very strong in the beginning of your
relationship - sweeps you off your feet - and wants an exclusive
relationship too quickly. Many women feel flattered at the
intensity of the man’s seeming need for an immediate connection
and consequently overlook the inappropriateness of it.
*This should not be
confused with ‘love at first sight’ where one or both parties feel
an instant connection - without any of the aforementioned
behaviors.*
There are many other
factors that could be listed - but if the man in your life begins
displaying the above qualities - realize it will not get better,
only worse. He will likely be unwilling to discuss his emotions
openly and feel that women are the inferior sex.
If this describes your
man, run - do not walk - out of his life. The next step will likely
be physical abuse.
About The Author
Terri Arnold, MS (Spicy Grandma) has been a Psychotherapist
for over twenty years. She has owned and operated a brick and
mortar dating service and has also helped abused women thru
individual and group counseling to improve their self esteem,
leave their abusive relationships and lead more fulfilling
lives. Terri invites you to visit her popular personalized and
informative 50+ dating community at
http://www.spicy-senior-singles.com.
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